3 Myths About Confidence That Stop Women From Being Heard

Myth #1: You can think your way into it.

You need more than an inspirational Instagram quote. They’re great and I’m a fan but confidence is a feeling, right? You feel in your brain and body. So, to really feel and project a confident presence, you need both your mind and body working together. If your shoulders are clenched from stress, low self-esteem, or from hunching over a computer, your mind will feel clenched and you’ll have small and low energy, making it tough to hang on to a motivational quote.

Myth #2: Confidence equals being loud and pushy

I was working with a client the other day and she said “I want to promote myself but I don’t want to be like one of those bragging loudmouths.” True, none of us wants to be that. But for a lot of us that’s how our brains have subconsciously categorized confidence over the years.

Myth #3: You either have it or you don’t.

This is where I see the ​perfectionist side of ambitious women get the best of them. They say things like “I know. I really should be better at this. I don’t know why I’m not.” And then they proceed to give themselves a really, really hard time.

  • breathe better so you speak from your center and project your voice calmly
  • hold your body with presence (and, no, it doesn’t have to be a power stance)
  • meditate (in a way that clicks for you) that gets you focused and calm
  • support yourself physically and energetically
  • practice and refine your pitch (with someone who IS NOT your friend, family or colleague) until it’s second nature to you

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